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Finding Balance

03 Jan 2019
Christina Panta
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Thinking Outside Your Box

Sometimes we get caught up in our own lives and forget about those around us, including our loved ones. It is just the world be live in. From selfies to social media, we focus on our own image, goals and struggles before we think of our partner’s at times. We are all guilty of it, and a lot of time a fight many couples get into is about being selfish — intensional or not.

Couple sitting back to back on a couch. (Photo: Getty Images)

Being selfish can cause tension in your relationship. (Photo: Getty Images)

Being selfish in your relationship can be a number of things. It is focusing on how stressed you were at work, so much so that you forget to ask about your partner’s day. It can be putting your priorities in front of theirs every single time. Or sexually, maybe you want all the fun, but don’t like to give back. It is basically anything in a relationship that takes you off track from “we” to “me” more often than not.

Don’t get me wrong, focusing on you is very important and essential to grow both individually and in your relationship. But like all things in your life, you need balance. While your priorities are important, you need to think of your partner and what matters to them. Compromise is essential if you want a healthy relationship.

So like the saying, you win some you lose some, that is the case with relationships. You can’t always pick the movie you watch on Netflix or the food at dinner. Either decide to take turns or decide on something that makes you both happy. Obviously birthday and special occasions are exceptions, plus random “me” days we are entitled to. But the problem comes when everyday is “me” day. Then you have to ask yourself, why are you even in a relationship to begin with?

Black couple arguing on a couch. (Photo: Shutterstock)

Compromise can save a relationship in trouble. (Photo: Shutterstock)

Maybe you are better suited to be single for awhile. If so, maybe your relationship has run its course, and you need to focus on you, which is fine. But if that is the case, you need to address it with your partner and not drag them along any longer.

If you are happy in your relationship and don’t plan on ending things any time soon, you need to check yourself and make sure you adjust your overly selfish ways if you are guilty. If not, it is only a matter of time that tensions will build up and your partner may get frustrated enough to leave you or even lose feelings all together.

Focus on you, but also think outside your own box and prioritize your partner’s happiness too. After all, you want to be a power couple in the end and not a dictator in your relationship.

Christina Panta
Christina Panta

Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.

About the Author
Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.

About the Author

Christina Panta
Christina Panta

Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.

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