Can You Mend Your Relationships?

We have various relationships throughout our lives. We have relationships with our family members, close friends and, of course, romantic partners. Regardless of the relationship type, every single one needs time to grow and strengthen over time.

Friends lose touch, but it doesn’t mean the relationship is dead. (Photo: PicBon)

 
We are all guilty of straining relationships simply because life gets in the way. Work may be consuming your time, or you just aren’t the best at balancing many things, in which case one relationship suffers or lacks attention.

This doesn’t mean the relationship is broken or over, but you can probably sense a shift. You may not know every detail about their day-to-day like you used to. And while this is normal as life gets more complicated and busy, it still feels odd to miss out on a part of someone you care about’s life. The good news is that this is completely mendable with some quality time and effort.

Quantity is great. but like most things quality is what has more longevity in the end. Maybe you don’t see your cousin or best friend for quite some time. Instead of dwelling on it, focus when you are together to maximize your time. A day can make up for months if you put in the effort. And remember, it isn’t all about catching up, but also about making new memories together. The worst thing you can do is live in the past because there you are stuck and not growing together. If that is your issue, that is a totally different story.

It’s easy to rebuild a relationship if you put in the effort. (Photo: fiveprime.com)

These strains are not limited to family or friends. They can alo happen with your romantic partner. Maybe you live together, but far too many people get stuck in a cycle or everyday routine and forget to actually build their relationship. Yes, you decided to be together, but you have got to keep things alive, and challenge and learn from each other to really value your relationship. If not, you can run into some serious relationship speed bumps or even dealbreakers down the road.

Regardless of whether the relationship is romantic or not, what is important across the board is that you are putting in an effort, and it is being noticed. It is an entirely different issue if you are trying and your counterpart isn’t. If that is the case, you need to have a serious conservation about the state of your relationship.

Sometimes when someone close is distant, that is when they need you the most, but they are also being pulled in different directions and may just be distracted. If that is the case, you need to be the bigger person and initiate. If a relationship is worth saving, you can and will build that bridge again. It isn’t torn down, just needs a little repair and love, that is all!