What If You Don’t Have a Summer Hook-Up?
As we discussed last week, cuffing season is on the horizon and coming in fast. Before you know it, everyone you know will be coupling up left and right. We have already shared a few rules on how to take your summer hook-up to a full on fall fling, but the question remains: What about those of us who have no one?
Not to get all woe is me, but what about those of us who have been single and loving it all summer long? While some aren’t phased by this and will move forward like normal, others will feel the pressure of being alone and let it get to them.
In all honesty, it should not bother you. If you have enjoyed your freedom thus far, why should that change as the leaves fall? But as Selena Gomez says, “The heart wants what it wants, and some will fall into some sort of seasonal depression if they feel like they are missing out.”
If that is the case and you or someone you know falls into that category, there are a few thing you can do:
Baby, you’re a firework
For starters, remind your friend or yourself that you are enough. You don’t need someone by your side. Anyone you find is a compliment to you, and does not define you. This along with more inspirational, but serious realness, will help anyone feeling down.
The buddy system goes way beyond walking to the bathroom together. This means if your friend is down, you bring reinforcements. Make sure your friend is surrounded by family, friends and those who care about them. Sometimes people don’t show all their cards, and you never know what is going on in someone’s head. I am not trying to jump to extremes, but you never know nowadays. So if your friend is really down or feeling lonely this cuffing season, take them out on the prowl, go to lunch or just sit back and enjoy some wine together. Whatever it takes to let them know, they aren’t alone. Love doesn’t just come from cuffing up and falling for a partner, it comes from everyone around you who cares about you.
Obvious but sometimes forgotten, the best way to get over not having someone new is putting yourself out there. If it is your friend, offer to be her wing woman and help her scout out potential suitors wherever you go. Or maybe you are into watching the Bachelor franchise and you submit her for the show. Who cares if she doesn’t make it, the journey itself is fun and will provide plenty of laughs and distractions. And if it is you who is lonely, take this advice to heart and get out there tiger!
In all seriousness, you and everyone out there is fine on their own. But if you or someone you know is feeling down on the brink of cuffing season, make sure you look around at all the loved ones you already have. They are your number one support system through sickness and health. That is what truly matters at the end of the day.