Planning Your Partner’s Birthday Is No Party
Currently I’m in the midst of planning the most extravagant annual event of the year — my birthday party. Party planning is no joke, and balancing work stress and this became too much so I’ve asked my boyfriend to take charge. I love him and trust him, and told him planning the entire ordeal can be part of my present this year. At first he accepted the challenge with no hesitation, but I have since asked him to share his insights on how things are going, and it seems to be quite turbulent to say the least.
According to him, it is a lot more stressful than he thought. It is one thing to plan an event for yourself and another to plan one for someone you love. You have to keep their thoughts and likes in mind, which can be hard because unless you are a mind reader. This means you need to consult every move with them. The other option is planning everything and making it a surprise. But if you are anything like me, you only like surprises you know are coming, aka not actual surprises.
But at the same time, my boyfriend shared that taking the stress away from me an planning things himself has been rewarding. According to him, “every girl believes they’re a princess, and it’s even more apparent on their birthday.” I have to say I totally agree. I hold very high expectations for my special day, and while I trust my boyfriend to plan something great, I would be lying if I said I am not a tad bit nervous.
Luckily, my significant other knows everything has to be perfect, so planning in advance is key. My boyfriend has shared that he is focusing on the following three key things to ensure the perfect birthday:
Rise and shine
Wake them up with breakfast or something nice! Starting off the birthday is crucial. You know the saying: “It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to.” Well it is real, so be ahead of the game and start the day off right. May be that sounds extra spoiled, but your partner is allowed to be a diva on their day so set the mood quick.
The gift is essential. For some, this requires weeks of preparation. Try to ask questions that may help you figure out what to get them as a gift without giving yourself away. Or bring something into conversation to get their opinion. Also, try having a budget in mind. While you should spoil your partner, don’t go broke trying to top the year before.
A fabulous feast
The birthday dinner has to be somewhere your partner loves or has been dying to go to. This is a true test to see if you have been listening to your significant other rant about all the places on their list that they want to visit. IF you are at a loss, let them choose, but obviously pick up the bill.
From what I have heard, planning your partner’s birthday isn’t a cakewalk. But with enough thought, it can be a success. As long as you truly know your partner, you will know what he or she will love and what they will hate. And if you don’t, don’t hesitate to ask. My boyfriend knows I need to know everything, so he is running everything past me first, and I love it. It is like as a gift he is my own personal assistant. I kind of wish I got this extra special treatment all the time!
If you are up for the challenge, offer to take planning off your partner’s list of things to do. Whether it be a big birthday or a small event, your help will be appreciated beyond what words can express.