Planning for Forever? Slow Down!
It is finally feeling like fall. A bit late, but better than never! So other than incredibly beautiful weather, what does this mean? Leaves fall, check. Pumpkin spice lattes, check. Halloween, not yet but around the corner.
One other big thing comes to mind this time of year, and that is fall weddings. In my opinion, fall is prime wedding season. We are talking low humidity, spectacular views and the list goes on. If you are single, you may hate this season a bit, but the bright side is free booze and plenty of other singles to mingle with. But if you are taken, this season may be a bit infectious for you. The more weddings you and your partner attend, the more you start to think of your own “big day.”
At first, it is all positive, like deciding your mutual preference in venue, time of year, theme, etc. But once the butterflies wear off, you think of the not-so-joyous part of planning the day that will change your life forever. For instance, the guest list. Have you ever written down how many people you actually want to invite to your wedding? It is insane how fast you can go from excited to terrified, especially when you factor in the cost-per-head. But realizing your need to cap your guest list doesn’t relieve any pressure because then you are stuck having to figure out how you will eliminate people. You go through the well if so-and-so comes so does XYZ, and so forth.
Then comes your wedding party. Have too many close friends? You have got to cut someone. Have too few compared to your partner? Time to pull an I Love You Man movie move and recruit friends to fit the role. Or maybe you end up cutting the wedding party all together. Also, how does everyone conviently have a flower girl? What if you don’t know any kids? Is that a deal breaker? Of course it is not, but things like that will pile on and bring on the pressure as you start to plan.
Don’t get ahead of yourself. While going to back-to-back weddings can get you in the planning mood, don’t take it too far. If you and your partner are comfortable enough to play around with the idea, keep it light. For starters, you don’t want to freak them out. And secondly, if you don’t have a ring on it, nothing is guaranteed. So don’t jinx it. Plus if you get too deep into planning, by the end of it you will highly consider eloping to Vegas and just having an after party.
So don’t ruin your life-long wedding dreams just by getting too excited this wedding season. Go to each one, have fun and that is all. It is like baby fever, you want one for a second, then it cries and that feeling goes away. Don’t spoil wedding wishes by jumping the gun too fast.