Are You Tired of Dating? You Aren’t Alone
We all know the song and saying “love is a battlefield” — and isn’t that the truth? Sure dating is fun, but it can be exhausting. There seems to be a new dating app every day, but this endless pool of potential suitors doesn’t make things any easier. If anything, having too many options makes things more complicated and strung out. Often times, we accidently become “serial daters.” And yes, we are all guilty of it or know someone who is.
While dating a new batch of people every week seems exciting, sooner than later everyone realizes they have a breaking point. You could be on a dating streak and next thing you know you have hit rock bottom. You are tired of the “same old same old” and start feeling each date gets less meaningful by the minute. You start to question — maybe I am sabotaging myself? This can sometimes be the case, but not always. Honestly, there is no shame in having high standards or being picky, however it can result in feeling defeated when you can’t find “the one.” After a while every date seems the same and less interesting every time. Believe or not, if this is the case you are not alone.
DC on Heels recently received incredible insights from Chanel Omari, ex-Bravo reality star turned celebrity radio host on iHeartRadio and WBLI 106.1 in New York City who knows a thing or two about dating fatigue. Below, check out Omari’s top six tips on how to identify dating fatigue and our advice on how to rebound from it.
You are bored
Are you just going through the motions? Are you lacking any desire to engage with your date? Yes, you are suffering from dating fatigue. You don’t care about what interests them or their favorite hobbies. You might feel a little bad, but not enough to truly make an effort.
You have become cynical and jaded
You have suffered enough from bad dating experiences and you are fed up. You have a tainted view on dating overall. You are inclined to believe everyone you date is a liar or bends the truth. And you often make hasty assumptions about your date without really getting to know them.
You are no longer polite
You no longer care about being polite or on time. If you want to run the conversation, you do so. If you want to say hardly anything, you do that too. You are not even afraid to hide your disappointment if your date doesn’t exactly match their profile picture.
You have become a lazy dater
Creatively has been thrown out the window. You prefer to set up most of your dates in Starbucks so as to eliminate the burden of finding a place. Sometimes you even defer the task of selecting a place to your date because you honestly don’t care.
You are vocal about your disappointment
Despite giving every dating site and/or app a try, you have yet to meet your match. You are frustrated so the focal point of all your conversations unfortunately end up being past stories of your dating woes.
You are resigned
You are a step away from abandoning ship. You have come to terms that you may not find your someone special, and you are convinced you’re destined to be “single forever.”
Morale may be low now, but don’t give up. Maybe take a dating break to regain hope and detox from failed lovers, but this is temporary. If you are serious about find your “true love” you need to stay positive. Maybe it happens when you least expect it after rock bottom, or maybe one date actually surprises you and sparks your interest. Whatever the case may be, there is hope. Faith is a real thing, so let it play its part and calm down. Stress isn’t attractive so just dial it down a bit and know everything will work out in the end. Hope exists and so does love.