Make Breaking Up Their Loss and Your Gain

Exes are a blessing and a curse. You hate watching them move on whether you’re over it or not. But the glimmer of hope is when you see bad things happen to them, aka karma.

Admit it, you love it when you ex downgrades. (Photo: Shutterstock)

I don’t mean anything dramatic or intense, because that’s just tragic and cruel. I’m talking about watching their next relationship fail, seeing them gain an excessive amount of weight or just watching them turn out to be unsuccessful in life. You would be lying if you said you haven’t secretly felt a sense of joy when these things happen to an ex.

You are allowed to laugh and feel like you have moved on and moved up in the world. But you shouldn’t focus solely on their demise. While secretly loving their upsets is one thing, you really should focus on yourself. By that I mean focus on how you have grown as a person and praise your own successes. Here are a couple things to think about when evaluating yourself:

Major accomplishments

Instead of focusing on your loser ex, look at all you’ve accomplished. Maybe you’re killing it in your career or have worked for the best revenge body yet. Make a list of everything you’ve done since your break up and reflect on the positives. Think of what’s made you happy since then and be proud of yourself. Gathering your thoughts is a great way of realizing all you have accomplished and gain a sense of pride in moving on with your bad self.

New boo

Maybe you moved on quickly, and your ex is chapters behind your storybook love life. You have been able to apply what you learned in past relationships to make this one even better. Or if you are single, it is by choice. You do not feel like limiting yourself and want to live life. If it’s not by choice, chill. It’s cliche, but you will find love when you least expect it. Enjoy the now, and stop worrying about the future.

You’re better than ever, ready to leave your past behind. (Photo: healerslibrary.com)

Self worth

Whether you had been in a tough relationship or things kind of just died down, it is fine to have felt some sort of sorrow after putting an ex to rest. But with time, you have discovered yourself again. You learned your strengths and weaknesses. You learned to value the people around you who truly care for you. You are ultimately the best version of you because sometimes you have to go through your lowest low to get on top and let your best self shine.

Still laugh a your ex from time to time, but focus on highlighting your great strides. Whether it be a major life accomplishment, moving on or just learning to love yourself, you are better off than you ever were. So give yourself a round of applause for simply being a better you. While you are still their biggest loss, you don’t care because they are irrelevant. Focus on you and your bright future, and move on to bigger and better looking things.