Handling a Flash From Your Past

Running into an ex can be extremely uncomfortable. No matter how much time has passed, such a run-in can cause anxiety and bring back memories of your past. If you and your ex had an amicable break-up, you should consider yourself very lucky. But for those who went through bad break-ups and rough times, it can be hard to confront your past.

Sometimes running into an ex can get the best of you. (Photo: sheknows.com)

One of my best friends was engaged last year, but had to break it off after her ex made an altercation violent. What seemed like a normal, happy relationship took a turn for the worse in the blink of an eye. Luckily after the break-up, he moved and my friend has moved on from her past to much happier, successful life. But her ex recently came back to visit the area. My friend handled it in the best way possible by not letting it get to her. Most people would be petty and look for revenge, which is totally normal, but she turned the other cheek.

So how can you get over your ex and focus on your better future? Here are a couple thoughts:

Elevated success

Without your ex, you have probably been able to accomplish so much without their baggage. Maybe you have been able to focus on work and get a well earned promotion and recognition. Or maybe you have had the chance to spoil yourself, have a little makeover and get a new wardrobe. Whatever the case may be, you are better without your ex and no longer have anything holding you back from your own success in being a better version of yourself.

New lover

Maybe you are over your ex because you are under someone new. If that is the case, go on with your bad self. Maybe you are playing the field, or maybe you found a new main squeeze. Whatever the case, maybe you learned from your ex that you deserve better and have found it. Why focus on your past when your reality is so much better now?

Best support system

Through the good times and the bad, you have had your support system to get through it all. Maybe it is your friends or family, either way they have been way more loving than your ex ever was. So continue to give your attention to he people who deserve it, not those who brought you to your lowest point.

Don’t be afraid of being independent and free. (Photo: theodesseyonline.com)

In the end, the past is he past for a reason. Don’t bother bringing yourself down when you are high. You are better than with your ex, so don’t focus your attention on them. They don’t deserve you or your time. Go on being fabulous and don’t turn back and give the haters the time of day.