Love Is Great, but Self-Care Is Better
The Bachelor finale just occurred earlier this week, and it was pretty much the same old same old. People had their hearts broken, but there was one clear winner despite a few twists and turns. But the most exciting news of everything was the big Bachelorette reveal – Hannah Brown.
Why was this so exciting? Well, she is a bubbly blonde who will ensure an entertaining season. But most of all, during the season she said something that really resonated with the audience. She expressed how she always felt pressure to be perfect, having come from a pageant family, and because of that she had a hard time finding herself and showing her true colors.
While the pageant part isn’t totally relatable, the idea of finding and loving yourself is. Often times, we put so much importance on finding a partner and making sure they are “the one.” But in reality what everyone should prioritize is learning to love yourself first, before you let anyone else in.
I know this may sound easy, but embracing yourself can be the hardest first step. There are several steps you will need to take to ensure your self-care is translated into self-love. For starters, you need to take a step back and think — what do you not like about yourself?
Not to say you hate yourself, but we all have our own insecurities from time to time. And when that happens, all you have to do is reassure yourself and remind yourself why you are awesome. Then go back to what you don’t like and find a solution. Easier said than done, but it is a start. If you at least have an idea of what to do to lift your spirits, that is a step in the right direction.
Aside from self-improvement, you need to look ahead and make goals for yourself. The worst thing you can do is not know who you are, and expect finding someone will solve all your problems. You should never say “you complete me.” While it is cute, you are saying that before you met the one, you were incomplete. That is an insane thing to wish and long for. You should want to complete yourself, and your partner is an added bonus.
It is all easier said than done, but beginning to think about it is a great first step. It will be a challenging process, but if you want to truly find yourself and be comfortable in you own skin before entering a new relationship, know that you are making the right, mature decision.
Best of luck to the gorgeous Hannah B. on her journey to find herself and love. This process will be very eye-opening for her own individual journey. And if she finds love at the end, it is a special added bonus.