Reasons Why You Should Stay Single
Once upon a time, being single was the worst. We all have a handful of friends that claim they are forever single — some who don’t mind, and others who think it is the end of the world. Or maybe you are the one who is always single and ready to mingle. Either way, being single seems to be fully embraced or completely dreaded. So what is the right way to react?
Turns out, embracing your singleness is the right move, according to author and motivational speaker David Essel. With an Amazon No. 1 best selling book, Positive Thinking Will Never Change Your Life…But This Book Will, Essel positions himself as a thought-leader on the topic of love and relationships. In his book, he breaks down 10 reasons why you should stay single by choice.
Here are a few insights on how you can determine if you are ready for a relationship or need to be single a bit longer:
Sense of entitlement
Relationships are all about compromise. Give and take are necessary for a successful relationship. So if you are at a point in your life where you would rather focus on yourself, and believe a relationship is all about doing what you want to do all the time, it is probably best to stay single. It is okay to be selfish and love yourself when you are single, but if you are committing to a relationship, you have to be ready to care about another person’s feelings and well-being. If you would rather be entitled than considerate, do you and only you.
Ghost of lovers past
If you are still haunted by an ex-lover, it is probably safe to say you need to stay single. You don’t want to bounce from one relationship to another. Focus on having some you time. If you find a new partner too fast, you may find yourself holding onto lingering issues that were never resolved in the past and bring them into your new relationship. To avoid this, give yourself time to self-evaluate what went wrong in your last relationship. After you have had time to grieve and love yourself again, you can venture into finding a new romance.
Because everyone else is
Please do not jump into a relationship just because everyone else is dating someone. I know it can be frustrating being the only single person of your group of friends, but you should own it and not conform to what you think is the norm. You want to be in a relationship when it feels right, and not just because you have nothing better to do. If you are tired of being alone, pick up a hobby not a hubby.
There are many reasons to stay single, but ultimately the decision is up to you. Just know that a relationship involves two people. Be open and honest with your intensions. If you feel that you need to break things off because you rushed into something, don’t be afraid to be single again and end things. Being single can be a lot of fun, so make the most of it and let love find you when you are ready.