Looking Past Physical Attraction

The other day I was watching Dating Naked for the first time. While I think the premise of the whole show is kind of crazy, the concept of looking past looks is interesting. The show lets individuals get over the attraction stage upfront, and once people see past being naked they get the opportunity to focus on finding a deeper connection.

While Dating Naked is a bit extreme, the idea behind the show is very interesting. (Photo: Variety)

So what’s the morale of the story? Physical attraction is important when dating, but it’s not everything. When you are looking to seriously date someone, looks will only go so far. So when dating, make sure to look for a connection that surpasses surface level qualities.

Here are a couple qualities to look for in a significant other for a successful, significant relationship:

Ambition

When someone wants to better themselves, it shows they care about their future. You should want someone who is determined to be the best version of themselves. If you are lucky to find someone like this, you can be influenced to chase your own dreams. Having goals is sexy. So if you want a future with someone you are seeing, making sure they have somewhat of a plan for that future.

Humor

The laws of attraction are not physical. You can be drawn to a certain person based on their personality. The goal is to find someone with a personality that compliments your’s. Humor can be a big factor in attraction. If someone can make you laugh or gets your jokes, you will more likely want to be around that person.

Trust

You can’t just trust any random stranger with your heart. If you fall for someone, you need to know you feel comfortable with them and respect one another. Remember, looks can be deceiving. Let your significant other seek out your trust and learn whether or not they are worthy of earning it. If you can trust someone, they are worth your time and affection.

Dating is complicated, so have some standards to make it easier to weed out the good guys from the bad. (Photo: lunch.click.co)

Looks eventually fade. While physical attraction is essential in a healthy relationship, there are many other important factors to consider. If your relationship is just based on the physical, you are bound to run into trouble. Look for a deeper connection that is everlasting when dating seriously. If you are just looking for fun, it doesn’t really matter and just focus on having fun. But when you want something serious, move on to someone with all the qualities you need to be happy. Don’t have a checklist, but know your standards.