When Time Is Up but You Can’t Let Go
Sometimes couples make it, sometimes they don’t. You may have been in this situation before or have a seen a friend go through it, and it is always awkward. The reason breakups are so uncomfortable is because many times there are still feelings there.
Often you still care for your partner, but you have grown apart. Maybe you want different things, are headed in opposite directions or are just not in the same place in your lives. Most of these things are not necessarily a dealbreaker, but they can put a toll on your relationship. If this is the case, you will both need to put in more effort to get over the hurdles and get back on track to grow together and not apart.
However, if you have put in all the effort you can and it isn’t working, or if only one person is trying and the other isn’t, this is a red flag. And if you are in this situation, you know a breakup is probably for the best, but it doesn’t make it any easier.
When you love someone you want it to work out, but sometimes it is not meant to be, and that is hard to admit. And just because you know the breakup is the right thing to do, doesn’t mean your feelings disappear immediately. Maybe they dwindle over time the more you are frustrated, but they are still there.
No matter how hard it is, if you know the breakup is what is best for you, you have to do it. If you don’t, you will feel stuck and resent yourself and your partner for not getting out sooner and eventually it does become a loveless relationship. Plus, if you are past the point of doubts and fully ready to just call it quits but are stalling, you are ultimately dragging your significant other along and leading them on to believe everything is okay when it isn’t.
Don’t hold yourself or you partner back if it isn’t there anymore. It hurts to let go of someone you love, but if there is no future and you know it is for the best, you just have to go through with it. There is no good time to wait for, just do it when you feel it is right. Don’t regret the time and memories you had together, but know you have so much more to look forward to. They were a huge apart of your world, but they weren’t your world — only you are. Life will go on, so enjoy it! You aren’t living if you lock yourself in a loveless relationship going nowhere.
Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.