Deciding How to Celebrate This Halloween
Throughout your relationship, you go through many stages. We all know about the honeymoon phase, the comfortable stage, and the usual ups and downs. But the thing with relationships that people often forget is that these stages aren’t linear. Relationship stages are much more circular. You will find yourself in the honeymoon phase more than once and obstacles will always occur.
This Halloween, try a house party with fewer people but more fun. (Photo: Shutterstock)
As you go through these different stages with your partner over and over again, it will effect the things you do on an annual basis. This includes the holidays.
Let’s focus on Halloween. Some years, you are going to want to go out and go big. This can be anything from a bar crawl to renting costumes. If you and your partner are in this major partytime mode, and you love anyone and everyone, going out is the move for you.
But say you are feeling comfortable together. You are in a good place, but one where you really want to keep the circle tight and not share the attention all night. In this case, opting for a house party might make the most sense. You get to control the guest list, music, mood, you name it! If this is a bit too much work, go to a close friend’s house party instead. The great thing about this option is that you save money and know you and your partner have a place to crash so you can party all night long.
Other times in your relationship, you are both just tired. Maybe work has been crazy, and you are both balancing one too many things. If that is the case, neither going out nor partying in general sounds like the move. Maybe you should opt to stay in.
If you don’t feel like partying, stay in and watch scary movies while you give out candy — or eat it all yourself. (Photo: MPTV Images)
This doesn’t mean doing nothing, just kick it back. Binge watch spooky movies all night and give out candy or eat it all yourself. This point in your relationship doesn’t mean you have become boring, you just like chilling with one and other and don’t need all the glitz and glam to have fun this holiday.
Whatever stage you and your partner are in, just know it isn’t permenant and will likely change every year. Don’t feel stuck. What you end up doing is based on how you both feel this time of year. No one stage is better than the next because they are all fun, just different.
No matter what, gear up in your favorite couple or solo costumes and enjoy whatever you do. Costumes not your thing? That is alright, but are you really in the spirit of Halloween anyway? But, enjoy the holiday with your loved one however you choose and have fun no matter what.
