Throwing Out the Plus Ones
With the holidays right around the corner, winter wedding season is upon us. Whether you are in the wedding party or just attending, there is always a lot of pressure when it comes to getting ready. From buying a knock out outfit to searching for the perfect date, there is bound to be a lot on your plate.
Let us not forget while preparing for this big event, you are also still going about your everyday life. Maybe instead of packing on the stress for what is supposed to be a day of celebration, you eliminate something instead. Now clothes aren’t optional, so that is out the question. But what about your date? If you don’t already have one lined up, should you just nip that in the bud? Going stag to a wedding isn’t a new revaltion. Does the movie Wedding Crashers ring a bell? Stop going on painful Tinder dates or asking to be set up with a random, and instead own going solo. There is no shame with not having a date.
Flying solo to a wedding may turn out to be the best way to actually enjoy it. There is no pressure. You can flirt with all the singles. You can drink as much as you want. And you can dance or not dance as much as you please. Sounds pretty fun, if I do say so myself.
However you may want to be prepared for a few questions that are headed your way and can’t be avoided when opting to go dateless.
Want to dance, you look lonely?
First off, it takes two to tango, but only one to dance. Second, if you are opting out of dancing and sitting down instead, that doesn’t mean you are lonely. Maybe your feet hurt or you geniuenly hate dancing. Either way, you can expect a lot of people to ask you to dance, but only say yes if you feel like it. Don’t do it just because you feel obligated to. Dancing is totally optional.
Why are you dateless, you are so pretty?
Going solo is nothing to be ashamed of. Maybe you couldn’t get a date last minute or maybe you opted out on purpose. Either way, you shouldn’t have to explain yourself. You are going to be asked this question, but don’t let the haters bring you down. Quote No Doubt and let everyone know that “it’s my life, don’t you forget” to put them in their place.
What are you doing later? Want to hook up?
Remember we brought up Wedding Crashers earlier? You can expect a couple sleazy singles will be in attendance, so don’t be surprised when this comes up. Kick them to the curb if you are not interested. But if you are game, go do you or them, whatever. It is a wedding so have fun, but don’t feel like you have to end up in bed with a random if that is not your style.
Whatever you choose to do, stress over a date or go stag, do have fun. Don’t get into your own head wondering what people will think if you fly solo. Why should you care? Show off your party of one and make the best of this night. Rejoice with old friends and make some new ones. Who knows, maybe you will hit off with one of the other singles. But if you don’t, it is okay! Just dance the night away to Jason Derulo’s I’m flying solo and own the night.
Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.