Memoirs of a Single Gal
According to last year’s census, 109 million Americans 18 years and older are single. With such a high number, does this mean there are not enough happily ever afters out there for everyone?
I have been in a relationship for a long time, so I had to draw inspiration from one of my best friends who is the queen of being single by choice. Unlike girls and guys who dwell on the fact that they are single, my bestie owns it and doesn’t let it define her, because why should it? I love being in a relationship now, but being single was awesome.
So stop stressing about being alone forever, and enjoy this time in your life. You have absolutely no one holding you back, so live life to the fullest. Here are a couple more benefits to cruising in the single lane:
When you are single, you can flirt with anyone and everyone. No one will judge you — not your friends and especially not your imaginary significant other. You can flirt away without an ounce of guilt, which is definitely something you can’t do while in a relationship. So flirt for drinks with the bartender, the stranger next to you and why not the whole bar while you are at it. You have no one to explain your actions to so YOLO.
Spend less, save more
Party of one over here! Sure, having a significant other means letting someone pay for you every now and then, but it actually ends up being more expensive in the long run. You need to account for the holidays, birthdays and spontaneous gifts, and being taken is expensive. Being single, you do have to pay for everything yourself, but you can choose to spend as much or as little as you want on yourself, allowing for a more manageable budget. Plus, you can go on random dates for free food as you please and save that money to go towards something even better.
Being in a relationship is like a balancing act. You have to schedule time for your significant other, friends, family and more. Being single, you are still busy, but you get a little more leeway. You can do whatever you want with whomever you want.
If you are single, you have a lot to be thankful for. You have your freedom, you have no restrictions and you have all the time in the world to do whatever you want. If you so choose, you can make an effort to find someone compatible with you, but don’t rush it. Don’t be that person who is actively seeking “the one.” That is not how it works. Most things in life come when you least expect them. So live your life and things will come to you. Eventually you will get married and be with someone for the rest of your life, so enjoy this single time in your life. It may seem like you are forever single, but it will go by a lot faster if you just live in the now.