How to Stay Sexually Healthy and Happy
Let’s talk about sex. When you are having problems with your sex life, it can be hard to know who you can talk to. It might be a little TMI for your friends to handle, and as for your mom? Forget about it. Luckily, there are a few basic things you can do to make sure that your sex life is happy and healthy. Read on for our tips:
Communicate with your partner
First of all, it is important that you keep talking to your partner. Frankly, you shouldn’t be sleeping with them at all if you don’t feel that they are someone that you can talk to. There is no point in faking orgasms or pretending to like things that you don’t just to make him feel good. A lot of men’s sexual egos are out of control – and if you continue to stay in a relationship, then you want to make sure that he understands your body and he cares about you feeling good when you are in bed together. Tell him what exactly you like, praise him when he focuses on it and make sure that you do the same for him.
Find a contraception method that works for you
Every woman has had it: that jet white pulse of fear when your period is slightly late (even if you haven’t had sex for six months beforehand). It is important to make sure that you find a method of contraception that works for you and that you trust. Condoms are not fool proof – in fact no method of contraception is – but they are necessary if you want to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases. You can buy the contraceptive pill online, and it is highly effective if it is taken carefully at the same time every day. If you don’t trust yourself to do that, you could always get an IUD, the contraceptive shot or an implant. No matter what you choose, you need to do your research beforehand.
Trust your instincts
If you don’t feel comfortable in a sexual situation, trust your instincts. Chances are, a subconscious part of your mind has noted a tone of voice or some body language that isn’t quite right and that is telling you to get out of there and go home immediately. Make sure that you always have a cab number in your phone and some spare cash secreted somewhere in your clothing so that you can escape from any situation that you need to easily. If you are nervous about leaving, then you can always pretend that you have some kind of stomach issue and that you need to get home quickly – that is hard to argue with (and, let’s face it, not very sexy). Trust your instincts – they are there for a reason.
If you have been in a relationship for a while with someone that you trust, it is time to have fun and to get a little crazy and experimental. There are lots of things out there that you might not have tried – some weird, some a little less weird, some so weird that you would probably die of embarrassment if anyone else ever found out that you were interested in it – but the only important thing is really that both you and your partner are happy and having fun. Your sex life is something that will develop over time as you get more comfortable with your own body and that of your partner’s, and it is definitely something that can be worked on. All the best things deserve some time and energy to be diverted into them, and your sex life is no different.
Article by Lucy Nathan