Can You Fall in Love Too Fast?
We all know those couples that rush everything in their relationship. One day they meet, the next they are dating and two weeks later they are in love. For some of us it is sickening to see, while others crave that deep, instant connection. The question is, can two people really fall in love — real actual love — so fast?
I am sure anything is possible in the game of love. Everyone is different, so who is to say two people can’t have love at first sight? We don’t know their feelings or intensions. Personally, I think it is easier to lust fast than love first, but I can’t speak for all the hopeless romantics in the world who swear they found the one and knew right away.
Love is fast, love is slow. It depends on the person and the situation. But are there pros and cons to falling head over heels for someone you practically just met? I can’t say one outweighs the other, but there are definitely good and bad things that come from a rapid-fire love.
Pro: Live a little
You are living on the edge and aren’t afraid to act on your feelings. Maybe you are drawn to that instant connection and want to explore where this love will take you. You are addicted to love and aren’t ashamed to admit it.
Con: Who are you?
Sometimes love is blind. When you fall in love too fast, you risk not really getting to know who the person you love. True colors sometimes reveal themselves much later than a first impression. So watch out. Maybe you will get to know one another and realize they are exactly who you thought they were. Or maybe you will realize they are a complete stranger with one too many layers you don’t want to explore.
Pro: The butterflies
When you jump into a relationship everything is new. Every little thing makes you smile or laugh. If you jump into love headfirst, the butterfly stage seems to last longer. You haven’t reached any bumps on the road, so everything is smooth sailing and love has you giddy.
Con: The crash
Once the high fades away, you will be faced with obstacles you wish you could avoid. You will have your first argument or disagreement, and since you never got to tackle any sort of confrontation before, it may seem difficult to overcome. Some people get over it, and their love grows stronger. Others will end things as soon as things get complicated.
Pro: Immediate intimacy
Some people have strong physical needs, and that is not a bad thing. While some show affection through words or gifts, others prefer touch. Neither is better than the other, just know what works for you.
Con: Something missing
While sex and intimacy are necessary in a relationship, you might find that you need more. A lot of times when people rush falling in love, they skip the step where they become friends. A strong friendship is the backbone of a successful relationship. If you just have sex all the time, you might find yourself unable to connect on a deeper level.
Love is different in every relationship. Some people fall hard fast, while others take their time. Don’t judge love, just accept it no matter it’s shape or form. Where there is risk, there is reward.