How to Avoid Sexual Neglect
In college I took a class titled “Love and Relationships.” It was a communications elective and everyone wanted to take it because let’s face it, no one wants to end up alone with 50 cats. Plus, the professor of this class was an actual love guru. She had the best advice on everything and anything you can think of. It was much less of a class, than it was weekly relationship therapy. We’d come in with questions and sit back and take in all her advice.
Once day she talked about sex when you’re older, and how you have to plan it ahead of time. I remember thinking such an idea was crazy. Isn’t sex supposed to be spontaneous and passionate? But our love guru assured us we would one day be so busy with life, whether it be with work or kids, that penciling in sexy time would become essential.
Now that I’m finally in the real world, with a 9-to-5, five-days-a-week job, it all finally makes sense. I swear all I want to do when I get home is eat and watch Netflix until I pass out. But you can’t just resort to sex only on the weekends. What if something comes up and you push it off until next weekend? It’s a trap that will turn into a vicious cycle of I owe yous and a sexless relationship.
Granted, relationships are not all about sex. But sexual activity is part of a healthy relationship, so sexual neglect is something you want to avoid.
Here are some tips to schedule sexual escapades throughout the week and keep you relationship alive:
You’ve heard that communication is key a million times before, but in this case it is a priority. You need to talk to your partner about their week ahead. Don’t plan on doing the deed on a day that you know you’ll be swamped and eventually cancel. If you’ve committed to the sex, you have to sex. So talk to your partner and pick a time and place. You need to literally pencil in the penis. No cancellations.
So now that you’ve been honest about your schedule and picked a time, you need to plan further. By this I mean you should get your partner excited. Let your imagination go crazy and make this sex worth waiting for. Think of how you want foreplay or if you want to be kinky. Get your partner involved in the planning so they will burst with excitement when the time comes. Plus everyone loves climax before the main event.
Just because you have amazing sex one week doesn’t mean you get to skip another. Reality is that once a week is a low minimum, so you need to at least keep that up. If you start skipping weeks, they will turn into months. Soon enough you’ll only be doing it on the holidays, and we all know that is not okay. So sex and sex often.
Life is hectic. You’re probably busy all the time, and when you’re not, you just want to do nothing. And while doing nothing is the best thing ever, it will destroy your relationship. Don’t neglect your significant other emotionally, mentally or sexually. You might be laughing now, but scheduling sex can really help those who lack spark in their relationship. Remember, talk to your partner, plan for it to be hot and do it often.
Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.