Balancing Weird and Sexy
When you first start dating someone, you try your best to portray the best version of yourself. You get extra dressed up where ever you go, and you wouldn’t dare reveal that you don’t wake up naturally flawless. But after dating a while, your true colors start to shine and you feel comfortable enough to just be you without judgement. But when do you cross the line?
I’m all for being yourself around your significant other. One of the major perks of being in a monogamous relationship is that while you reveal your true self to another person, they are doing it in return. You feel comfortable enough to be silly around each other, wear no make up and occasionally pee with the door open. But while becoming your partner’s best friend is essential in a happy relationship, you can’t forget the sexual aspect of your relationship.
The key to this is balance. You want to be their best friend by day and their wet dream by night. There are a few habits to postpone until after you have a ring on it.
While some would argue pooping in front of your significant other is a sign of eternal closeness, I beg to differ. If my boyfriend pooped in front of me, it would be hard for me to think of him as cute, let alone sexy. So for the sake of your sex life, please close the door. The secrets out that you’re not perfect and do in fact use the bathroom, but this doesn’t mean your significant other has to be an eyewitness.
After being around someone for so long, you eventually care less about the way you look. While I used to get super dolled up for dates, after being together for so long I tend to dress more relaxed when going out. But if I go out with my girlfriends, I spruce up my look, and my boyfriend can’t help but get jealous that I dress up for everyone but him. So this goes to show that your significant other does appreciate it when you dress to impress. And even if you don’t do it regularly, special occasions will remind them of the hottie they first hooked up with.
Me, Myself and I
While your significant other’s world revolves around you, you don’t have to constantly remind them. Your daily life maybe more fascinating than your partner’s, you still shouldn’t talk only about yourself. Asking about their day shows that you care, even if you just pretend to listen. I’m so comfortable in my relationship that I get caught up with my own life accomplishments and stresses and often forget to ask about my boyfriend’s day. Try to cut out so many I’s and turn the conversation to them. Remember, being considerate is a turn on.
While being comfortable is your end goal, you need to stay sexy as long as you can. Learn to balance being silly and sexy, funny and fabulous, and comfortable and cute. Embrace your inner Emma Stone and be the best unfiltered beauty you can be.