Staying Together in the Toughest of Times
Death is a touchy subject. People react differently to it. Some are are open about it, but most cringe at the word or mention of it. That is because people react to death in their own way. Where as one can be very expressive and open about it, others bottle it and keep their feelings to themselves.
In a relationship, you may run into a moment when love and death intertwine. Perhaps your partner loses someone close, and you are having a hard time being there for them and also giving them space to grieve. It is difficult, and there is no cookie cutter way to approach this. All you can do is remind your partner you are there for them and leave the line of communication open. Even if they don’t open up immediately, or at all, it is still comforting for them to know you are there if they need to lean on you.
Another thing you and your partner may experience, but hopefully won’t, is a near death experience. Maybe this is a car accident or vacation gone wrong. Whatever it was, it was unplanned. If this is the case, you and your partner may be both spooked. But one things for certain, you are happy you are both alright. This is an unfortunate way to remind you to hold each other and love harder everyday. Life is kind of crazy like that and is very unpredictable. So love one another unconditionally each day, and don’t sweat the small stuff. Grudges and fights happen. If you love each other, put your pride aside and work with each other to make things right.
Another sad subject is the idea of a couple losing a child. This is unbearable to think of, but some couples have unfortunately been faced with this huge life shift. Some couples break under such sadness. They may grieve differently and no longer see eye to eye. The tragedy pushes them away from one each other, and being together only brings back memories to hard to bear. Pulling apart totally makes sense, however if you can stick together, it is possible to get through this hardship. It wont be easy. So if you or a couple you know is going through this, know it does get better. You never forget your loss, but life does move on, and it can be beautiful again.
At the end of the day, couples don’t often think or want to think of the worst of the worst. But when you or your partner are faced with it, know it will get better in time. And know that you don’t have to go through it alone. You may not want to open up right away, but let your partner in and vise versa. Be there for them even if they don’t ask you.
Love conquers all. It is cheesy, but true. This too shall pass and together you are stronger.