Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?
If you cheat, are you always a cheater? Some would say it depends on your circumstances, but others would say if you do it once, you are bound to do it again.
There is a chance you are with the wrong person. Maybe you feel stuck, and you don’t know how to get out. Then one day you run into someone you are actually compatible with. What do you do? Often times, people find themselves in that situation. It doesn’t justify the act, but explains the situation.
For those who think a person can change, that is often the case. But others stand strong on the idea that no one can change. Some truly think once you do it, you can’t change. For some, maybe it is because they get addicted to the act. Others feel trust is broken so why not do what others think they are doing already.
If you are a past cheater, this puts you in an odd situation. Do you stick to the stereotype and live up to the deal you have been given? Or do you make a significant change and step up to the challenge of reinventing yourself?
Of course the right move is to change for the good. Prove that one mistake doesn’t define you. It won’t be easy because many people will judge you along the way. But the key is to do it for YOU. If you do it for others, it won’t motivate you the same way. When you want to better yourself, you discover a whole new motive.
If you are unfortunately caught in this situation, step up to the plate and try to fix your image for yourself and your future relationship. Your future partner will take you, and you will be proud of yourself, which is priceless.
Just know it won’t be easy. It will actually be very hard and potentially take a very, very long time. You will be judged, you will face obstacles and you will feel down every now and again. But if you are able to get past all of that, then you will be thankful and finally able to move on. Yes, you will still need to address your past every time you enter a new relationship, but then you can be honest, own up to your past and prove you are a different, grown person. And that is what really matters in the end.
Born and raised in Northern Virginia, Christina aspires to be a public relations professional in a big city after graduation from James Madison University. In her free time when she’s not blogging away about dating and relationships, Christina loves to go shopping, watch Netflix and play with every puppy that crosses her path.