What to Do If Your Partner’s Pals Are Creeps
You have your friends and then your partner. But with a partner, comes his or her friends too. They say the more the merrier, but that is not always the case. See, you actually get to pick your friends most of the time, however you have no say in your partner’s friends. There is a chance you will hit it off and love them, but an equal chance you won’t be able stand them for more than a couple minutes. And that is totally normal.
These friends have more than likely known your partner longer, met multiple significant others and probably are a bit immature. Whatever the case may be — easyily intimidated by them or just have them get on your nerves — the best thing to do in these situations are to learn to tolerate the in doses or give your partner “friend nights” when you are off the hook and don’t have to hang out with the whole group.
But what if it is not that your partner’s friends annoy you so much as they hit on you all the time? For one, flirting with a partner’s significant other behind his or her back is super shady. Yes, sometimes flirting comes naturally, and if it is innocent, it is alright. But if they are a straight up creep, that is NOT okay.
So what do you do? Do you out the friend? Put them in their place? Or avoid them completely? Here are some tips on how to handle the creeps in your partner’s life, and hopefully put an end to all the weirdness.
Address the issue head-on
Tell the creep to stop. Don’t be coy, just be honest. Tell them it freaks you out and makes you feel uncomfortable. Maybe they don’t realize they are flirting and will be surprised. Who knows? They may even be apologetic. However, if they ignore your warnings, feel free to call them out. Nothing like public humiliation to put them on the stop next time. Plus then they will be caught in the act, and your partner will not have it.
Raise the red flag
Don’t keep this from your partner. It is much easier to address early on than down the road. This is something your partner will want to hear from you directly and not their creepy friend who can twist things around. You partner should side with you and hopefully will volunteer to talk to their friend and settle things. If he or she doesn’t, he or she will at least be hyper-aware of the situation and have your back moving forward.
The two things you need to do is address the problem and make it known. This way it is out in the open, and everyone involved knows your stance. If your partner’s friend continues to be a creep, they are obviously not a good friend to keep around in the first place, and your partner will see that. Don’t let unwanted flirting creep you out, stop it. Don’t just get used to it and let it keep going.