Is Your Partner Cute or Controlling?
Recently on a bus to D.C., I made a random friend. We chatted and somehow his friend’s dating life came up. Apparently, his friend’s girlfriend was nice, but a bit controlling and only ever wanted him to hang out with her and no one else. When I asked how long they had been dating, he revealed his friend has barely been in the relationship for two months and the girlfriend was already very possessive.
Now this isn’t a sign to break up immediately, but it definitely indicts that a talk needs to happen. From there you can navigate next steps on whether or not things can work out or if you need to nip things in the bud.
Here are a few signs to tell if your significant other loves you or is straight up obsessed with you:
Party of two
Quality alone time is important in any relationship. But when does the line cross from cute to controlling? If your significant other only wants to hang out with you 24/7, that can be a bit much. What is worse is if they get mad if you try to hang out with anyone else. If that is the case, your partner has gone overboard, and you need to talk. Quality time together is important, but you need to also spend time with the other loves of your life like your family and friends. If your partner is against that, it will only make for an unhealthy, toxic relationship.
Lack of respect
If your significant other doesn’t respect the important people in your life, that is a bad sign. While your partner should be important to you, you can’t forget the people who have been there since day one. If your significant other wants to be your number one priority too fast, it can be a sign of trouble. They need to know their place and realize you had a life before them. They should want to respect and get to know the people you care about, not force you to push them away.
If your significant other tries to change you too fast, that can be a bad sign. People naturally change a little in a relationship, but if it is one-sided and by force, that is not okay. If your partner is trying to mold you into a whole new person, that is controlling. Stop them before things escalate.
There’s a chance your partner doesn’t know they are acting up. If that is the case, give them the benefit of the doubt and bring up your concerns. If they change, that is amazing and you can move on. If they continue to be possessive, you will need to realize it is not you, it is them and move on by yourself.