Put Yourself Out There and Let in Love
Love is complex. Some people are obsessed with the idea of it, while others fear rejection. I was watching MTV’s Are You the One? the other day, and realized so many people are dumb when it comes to love.
Sometimes it’s an insecurity thing, other times people are too desperate. Whatever the case may be, these singles struggle to find The One. Thus, they are forced to believe they will be forever single. But that is not the case. Love is hard but worth all the heartache. With an open mind and heart, anyone can find love.
The struggle sometimes is that people don’t want to let love in. Whether they are afraid or have too high of standards, these people avoid love at all costs. But if that is not you, and you are willing to give love a shot, here are some things to avoid:
If you aare too picky, you aren’t going to find love. Especially if all you care about is looks. Actually try to get to know the people you date and don’t just judge them on a scale from 1 to 10. Remember beauty fades, and you are no exception.
It is okay to have a couple dealbreakers, but if you have too many you maybe setting yourself up for disaster. You can be compatible with someone you have a lot in common with, but you can also find a connection with your complete opposite. If you let yourself have too many dealbreakers, you can be missing out on someone great. Hold off on writing someone off right away and actually give them a chance. If there is still no connection after that, then at least you can say you tried.
Afraid to fall
Some people are afraid to open up to love because they fear getting hurt. But, love itself is a beautiful risk. You never know if a relationship is going to work or not, but that is half the fun. Don’t be afraid to give love a chance. You learn from every relationship, so if you are heartbroken at some point, it will only help you find a better, stronger love in the future.
Love is like gambling. You don’t know the outcome going into a relationship, but that is part of the thrill. How do you expect to find the one without some experience? Go out and date around. Maybe you will find love and maybe you won’t, but at least you will be out trying and putting yourself out there. A little bit of hurt is worth a lifetime of love when you find the right person.