Avoid Relationship Road Blocks
There are many twists and turns throughout a relationship. The lucky ones are able to overcome any struggle or indifference. For others, it is harder to get over relationship problems.
Don’t surprise your significant other with an unwanted relationship step. (Photo: Thinkstock)
What are some relationship speed bumps that can make or break a relationship? Here are a couple to go over with caution in your relationship.
Early I love yous
Exchanging feelings is a big deal in any relationship. The biggest fear you can have is that your feelings won’t be reciprocated. Timing is everything. But what happens when you prematurely say I love you? Honestly, it can go one of two ways. It can be okay, and you will be surprised with an I love you back. Or you get an awkward silence. This silence does not mean the other person does not care, but instead you just caught them off guard. Maybe with time, things will work out. Or, worst case scenario, you scare them off, and it’s over. Avoid this road block and wait until you feel the time is right for both of you.
Premature move ins
Just like an early exchange of feelings, talking about moving in too early can make your relationship uneasy. Whether you want to move in together to take the next step or just for to save money on rent, you want to make sure your significant other feels the same way. If not, you can scare them into thinking things are getting too serious too fast. For some, such news can be good, but others will see it as a red flag. Make sure your significant other knows why you want to take this step and determine how they will take the news. If you think the outcome will be good, go for it. If not, wait before jumping into this big move.
Future talk
Talking about a future together can vary from cute to scary. It is one thing to make plans a few months in advance, and it is another thing to pick out nonexistent baby names. Every relationship is different. Some are okay with planning ahead or even joking about the future. But others avoid future talk like the plague. If you like to live in the moment, that is amazing. Just make sure your significant other knows so they do not surprise you with unwanted plans. If they still are not able to take things slow, you might need another talk or to break thugs off so they know you are serious about being too serious.
Reaching a relationship road bump? Sit down and talk it out. (Photo: Almay))
Know your significant other. If they are the type who gets excited about the future, surprise them with the next big step in your relationship. But if they are into the moment, think more carefully before impulsively jumping the gun. You want to warm them up, not push them away. Put yourself in your significant other’s shoes and think of their response. If you really care, you won’t force them to cross a relationship road bump before they are ready. Let it come naturally.
