Is Monogamy Too Much To Handle?
Digital dating has opened so many doors for love in this day and age. But while so many have benefited from the dating apps and having more outlets to find their “one,” others see it as a way to play the field. And while there is nothing wrong with that if you are upfront with the person you are seeing, most people decide to avoid honesty and hide it all together. So of course, this always ends up in heartbreak and betrayal.
The worst is when people try to be sly about juggling partners. From hiding texts to deleting them all together, if the person you are seeing is acting sketchy, it is probably because they are guilty of doing something sketchy. And the most upsetting thing is if people were just more open with their intensions in the begining, all the drama could be avoided.
If you are about to start dating someone but want to keep things open, be upfront. If you don’t, the following will likely happen:
You will get caught
No matter how sleek you try to be, it won’t last long. If you use social media on a daily basis, you will get caught. Whether you are on it and your partner looks over while you are in bed, or they are holding your phone and Lover No. 2 texts you back, they are bound to find out one way or another.
You will hurt someone
When your secret is out, you are going to put you and your partner in an awkward situation. There is a small chance they don’t care. But more likely than not, a piece of them will be upset and feel betrayed. If you didn’t want something serious to begin with, you should have been honest from the start before feelings developed.
You will burn bridges
If you think you can juggle partners, leave them and try to go back to them later, you are sorely mistaken. For the most part, if you have fooled someone once, you aren’t going to get away with it twice or even get the chance. And that is rightfully so. Too many people think they can have their cake and eat it too. But if your partner knows better, once a liar, always a liar.
If monogamy is not for you, at least own it. Have a talk early on and explain you want to see other people and keep things open. Some will be okay with tryig this, but others will be upfront not be onboard. If this conversation happens early enough, no one gets hurt that badly. However if being an undercover player is more your forte, good luck trying to pull it off. You will likely get caught, lose a good thing and keep living a life of emptiness. Enjoy that if you must but if it were up to me, I would say be the better person and own up to your intentions. But to each their own, just don’t waste anyone’s time!