Resisting the Little White Lie
Sometimes lying seems easier than telling the truth, but trust me, it will only get you into more trouble at the end of the day. Little white lies patch up a temporary problem, but don’t fix the big picture. If your relationship is based on a throne of lies, it is not going to make it.
To avoid evident heartbreak and a destined breakup, avoid lying when asked these three major, fairly common questions:
Who is that?
If you have nothing to hide, just be honest. My biggest pet peeve is when guys are sketchy about their phones. I once knew a guy who was so overprotective of his phone, and it just came across as super sketchy. If his girlfriend ever asked who he was texting or talking to on the phone, he would be really weird about it. Turns out he was never cheating, but he gave her enough reason to be suspicious and paranoid, which ultimately took a toll on their relationship. So the morale of the story is to not be sketchy if there is no reason to be. Avoiding the truth is just as bad as a lie. Be honest if there is nothing to hide.
Where are you?
It is not that hard to answer a question, but it is also not healthy to always ask your significant other about their whereabouts. That being said, if you are asked where you are or what you are doing, be honest. But if you feel like you are always being watched or accounted for, bring it up and communicate this to your significant other. You don’t want to reach a point where you feel like you need to lie just to have your own space. So stay honest, but be wiling to bring up an issue if it is there.
What do you think?
When someone asks how something looks on them, they aren’t always fishing for a compliment. Sometimes they really want the truth. So in this case, just be straight up. If they look terrible, let them know so they can change or find something more suitable. Obviously do it in a nice way and don’t crush their soul, but be honest nonetheless. They may get annoyed at first if they expect a different answer, but will ultimately appreciate your honesty.
The truth will always come out. So no matter how much you try to scheme and avoid it, it is best to be honest. It won’t always be easy, but you will feel a lot better about yourself and your relationship will remain healthy and untainted. Obviously, you will slip up here and there because no one is perfect, but as long as you come clean and don’t get stuck in a web of lies, you will be okay.